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A man's friendships are one of the best measures of his worth.
No one is going to believe in you…
We tell everyone about our goals, dreams and ambitions but here’s the truth:
No one will believe in you until you show them results.
That is a fact of life.
Your friends.
Your family members.
They will encourage you…
But until you can show proof of concept they won’t truly believe in you.
It’s natural, seeing is believing so don’t be upset by this.
You should be scared of these people though!
You will have to prove yourself no matter what you try to achieve.
But some people honestly don’t want to see that happen and the worst part is they will trick you into believing the opposite is true.
Even your most loyal supporters can turn on you because when you’re on your way up you remind them of their dreams, but when you reach the top you haunt them with what they could’ve been.
My advice is to give these 7 people a wide berth if you want to truly progress on your goals:
Complainers - the people who never accept responsibility. Everything and everyone outside of them is to blame for their problems. They will DRAIN you of every ounce of energy you have. AVOID THEM.
Drama magnets - the people that always get involved in arguments (even if they have nothing to do with them). These people will drag you into their problems and sap your ability to focus on what is important.
Naysayers - to these people, every idea you have WON’T WORK. How is that even possible? They are simply there to undermine you. Get rid of them or tolerate them and disregard their advice that is clearly there to stifle your potential.
Unjustified victims - the people that always think the world is against them. These people will infect your mind positioning your attitude in a way that makes you EXPECT THINGS TO ALWAYS GO WRONG. That can only set you up for failure.
Toxic positivists - everything is always “going well” for these people. They live life with rose-tinted glasses refusing to accept the cyclical nature of their circumstances. Being unable to acknowledge when things are going wrong is naive and dangerous - keep away!
Manipulators - they will use you for everything you have. Identify these people by auditing your relationships: who are the people that only talk to you when they need something? This is the first sign you have a manipulator in your ranks.
Time vampires - these people have no consideration for your schedule. They will call you, text you or demand your attention at any time convenient to them. You have to either set strong boundaries with these people or cut them out - there is no easy way around this.
Take a look at your friends and family.
Do they fit any of these moulds?
Be honest because I can guarantee you at least one of them do.
You have to take action or you will continue to settle for mediocrity in your progress toward goals with these people in your life.
You will even be in denial that these people exist in your life because remaining close to them is comfortable.
Progress is uncomfortable.
Be willing to seek what is beyond suffering and you might stand a chance of becoming the person you were meant to be.
As always, stay alert and take care
Matthew Harris
Owner of Kaizen Motivation